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top ,have never h=E5s a blood pressure problem am a senior citizen and = my wife is now in her eight year i have a companion for her 5 days a week 10 to 4 p.m. but after that and the week end its holy terror .i have now be= en at the share giving over a year and findiong that i just cant handle it . am i been selfish ? cant iunderstand what she is going thru? have tried many avenues seeking help but nothing thus far..anyone out there please come to rescue Thank u. Sam---------- Sam, you are not selfish. You obviously love your wife, and feel responsible to care for her 'until death do you part.' What you are not considering (or perhaps you are), is that the death that parts you both m= ay be your own. And what will happen to your wife then? Care-providers for people with disease and disability have a high mortali= ty rate. We, unfortunately, live in an age where saving dollars on care has become more important than saving the health and lives of care-givers. Consequently, we in the medical profession are constantly discharging fra= il senior citizens from the hospital to the care of their equally frail senior citizen spouses. Please consider hospitalizing your wife so that she can be discharged to = a nursing home. If you were to die, such action would be automatically taken, thus requiring your poor wife to deal with the double trauma of yo= ur death, and adjustment to nursing home living.. If the action is taken no= w, you can emotionally support her transition out of your home. Please let us know how you're doing. ------- Regards Mary Ann Ryan RN