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Dear Ivan--I think some good points have been made in the responses you've received re: being VISIBLY GAY on Oprah. Let me say that from what I know of your family situation and other experiences you've shared with me, I can fully understand your concern, which may seem to some to be unnecessarily"dramatic". This is a very painful issue for you, and one you live with daily. On the other hand, please take seriously what others have said about our group * agenda * should we actually end up on Oprah. That would be to focus not on our private lives as gay/straight/Jewish/Catholic/Quaker/ atheist/whatever people, but as PWPs and CGs for PWPs. Nor would I expect that hetero-couples would be kissing on stage....I love my husband very deeply, but he'd die if I kissed him on TV!! ;-) WhileI know that you feel a need to educate the world about the fact that gay and lesbians folks exist in large numbers in the population--and even have PD!--that, I believe, would NOT be the PURPOSE of being on Oprah, and the fact that you were gay would be incidental to the fact that you are a PWP. So my reaction, honestly, is there shouldn't be any secret to your gayness, and if your CG (male) was there, no problem, but neither should therebe an emphasis on that aspect of your relationship, which would, unfortunately in our society, shift the focus of the discussion away from the reason we would be there--PD. Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter, 78/7, Oxford,Ohio [log in to unmask] * * * * * * * * * * * * * * "Ask me about the CARE list for PD caregivers!" * * * * * * * * * * * * * *