Re this subject: many of us have loving family members who are gay. I think that the only perceived problem relates to the following: Back in the late '60's and 70's, when I would walk with my children through our central park, there would be (heterosexual) couples in all stages of public display of affection/even love-making. I explained to my children that there are many people out there with no one to be affectionate with. One should always remind one's self that kissing and other overt signs of public affection can make some unhappy and uncomfortable. To me this applies to both gay and heterosexual couples. Hand-holding in exuberance is acceptable--but please let's remember the lonely people. Miriam L. Denham, cg for Dale dx 1988 My husband and I have been married almost 50 years.