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Hello, all. I've been reading all the communications on the list, but I haven't written anything for a long time because I've been trying to deal with the Nursing Home admission of my husband, Dave, since January. After he was hospitalized for 2 weeks from a psychotic reaction to zyprexa, I came to the conclusion that I could no longer manage at home without help around the clock. If he fell, I was unable to pick him up by myself. I could not leave him alone at all. Since I have a job and for various other reasons, my only solution was the nursing home. We had more or less expected this -- Dave has had Parkinsons since 1972 -- and knew this might ultimately be where he would find himself. I can only tell you it is one of the most painful decisions I have ever made. (As Bob Howard will attest). I had the complete support of my 3 children and their spouses -- in fact of all my friends and acquaintances, also -- all of whom told me they don't know how I managed with him as long as I did. But as all of YOU know, you just DO! It's been very painful for both of us; we're BOTH lonely and sad. But Dave has improved. His mobility is better, the hallucinations are benign, his paranoia is lessened and there is someone around to meet his needs. I can't say he's happy, but I feel he is getting good care. My children and friends visit him whenever they can and we try to take him out for rides and to restaurants on occasion. I know that it was time. I, too, was confused by someone who referred to "the final stages" of Parkinsons. I would like to know what they are. Since this is a "designer" disease, as someone said, each patient seems to have different symptoms and reactions to the medications and deteriorates at a different rate. Dave really only began to get worse about five years ago -- after 20 years. Naomi Meyer, CG Dave 69 /25