Janet, your outlook is great I have always felt that I am responsible for my own actions and reactions and no one else's. Each of us will reap only what we sow, not what others do. So, even though I drop to the bottom of CD (clinical depression) from time to time, I (with the help of friends, family, and this list) climb back out. By the way, I have also found that I can color that hole. Mine now has rainbow swirls. It makes it cheery (ha ha). don't forget how to laugh Marling [log in to unmask] (work) or [log in to unmask]