Kees--thanks for sharing your poems, and also for the explanation about your divorce decision. There are, indeed, times when that is the best choice---so long as it's the choice of both parties. It seems that's the case for you. I relate to Michel's comments, after 54 happily married years, but also felt the pain of the post which cried out for help (then choked off the request---I hope theretruly has been some help there.) Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter, 79/8, Oxford,Ohio [log in to unmask] * * * * * * * * * * * * * * "Ask me about the CARE list for PD caregivers!" * * * * * * * * * * * * * *