Welcome to the List, Ann. Be sure to join the Caregivers' List, too -- any post from Camilla Flintermann will invite you to "ask about the CG List," and I recommend that you do so. I did, and I've gotten tremendous help from both Lists. People on both have so much information, they are a resource par excellence. Don't hesitate to ask a question, or a lot of questions. You'll get good answers, but nobody will ever tell you what you "should" do -- just tell you their experience and leave your choices up to you. Again, welcome! Best wishes, Delda White ([log in to unmask]) CG Bob 65/1.