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My dear young friend, What to say?? Love is the most wonderfull and also most difficult feeling to handle -in my opinion - I understand you and the young girl, it`s very difficult to know what to do because she is young, even in my age 59 years old it would be difficult to know what to do. BUT John, let her find herself because IF she is the right girl for you she will tell you. I KNOW you are suffering- and maybe she is too- because she is very unhappy. My hope is that you one day will find the GIRL who derserve YOU. Best wishes Sonia ---------- > Fra: John I Quist <[log in to unmask]> > Til: Multiple recipients of list PARKINSN <[log in to unmask]> > Emne: Help comfort a panicking SO > Dato: 10. december 1997 12:05 > > Hm, I don't really know how to handle this... You might remember that I > told you about meeting a woman this past summer, and that she didn't seem > to mind my being ill? Well, then we both thought it was MS, and that was > OK by her. When I wrote her and said that it was PD, she broke down > completely. My letter was written in a positive mood, and I really think > this is better: there are pills that help against the symptoms, and a lot > of research going on. But for her this was worse than MS, because her > grandfather died when she was 11, and he had been very handicapped during > the last years. So for her PD is something terrible! You know, it's not > easy for a child to have a nuanced(?) image of an illness, no matter > which... Those images often stay with us as we grow older. > > Stupidly, we never swapped phonenumbers, just addresses, so right now > she's in Israel working, and I'm in Sweden. Only means of contact: > letters. I sent her a letter this past Friday, with my number in it and > an "order" to call me Collect Call as soon as she gets the letter. I > enclosed a short explanation of what Parkinson's is, and a newsclipping > describing a new research project that sounds promising. (I found them at > www.parkinsons.org, I think) > > So, how am I going to make her understand that there is hope? I mean, I > _do_ intend to listen to her. I will not tell her that she is stupid to > be worried, because she has every right to be. Plus, if she hadn't > worried, _I_ would have been a bit worried, I think.... Her worrying > shows that she truly cares for me. I just hope her love is strong enough > to survive this. If she leaves me I don't know what to do. > Ok, I won't kill myself over it, but it would be one of the worst > possible things that could happen.... To make matters worse, she hasn't > written a single word to me since the desperately unhappy letter I > recieved 4-5 days ago. > > /John.