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Hello Camilla, You are right. I was caregiver for my husband for 5 year before he pass away from a heartattack, I was often - like you - asked to speak for him. BUT that day I was trying to talk with the man at the hospital I could see on his face that he was angry, because the wife wouldn`t let him answer. Greetings Sonia ---------- > Fra: Camilla H.Flintermann <[log in to unmask]> > Til: Multiple recipients of list PARKINSN <[log in to unmask]> > Emne: Re: Sv: A posting from Jo, re: Invisibility > Dato: 10. januar 1998 16:37 > > Just a gentle reminder that there ARE times when a PWP wants the CG to > speak for her/him. How does the other person know whether this may be the > case? When we go to the doc, or in most situations except conversations > with family and friends, Peter ASKS me to do the talking. I often try to > steer questions to him, but he doesn't always appreciate it! Just another > example of our famous "different strokes for different folks"--but don't > necessarily consider the CG as "rude". > > > > > > > > > >If she is being so rude as to speak for him, she perhaps deserves to be > >gently chastised. You could say, "I know Fred finds things difficult, > >but I have found that, given the time, most PWPs (including myself) can > >do a lot more than people give them credit for!" > > > >Alternatively, you simply IGNORE the carer's response, and repeat your > >question to Fred (?) starting it with "Fred, how ...". She SHOULD get > >the message! > > > >-- > >Jeremy Browne - [log in to unmask] > >Hampshire, UK > > > > Camilla [log in to unmask] > > # # # # # # # # # # # # # # # > > # The World is One Country # > > # # # # # # # # # # # # # # #