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Hi Claudia, You wrote, with regard to your husband: > You were right on target when you say men want to fix things, not emote about > them. He is a retired Air Force officer who has lived a no-nonsense, let's > get this thing fixed and get on with it kind of a guy. And he can't fix me. Combine the truism that we men want to fix things with a military background and you are faced with a mindset that will take a lot of altering. How about trying a different approach and see if you can get that mindset working FOR you not against you. If he can't fix you (and of course he can't) try to get him to concentrate on those parts of your (plural) problem which he can fix. Get him involved. It might also help to work out a 'mission statement' together. You also said "It was supposed to be "fun" for both of us. I try to tell him I'm tough and we can still do most of the things we wanted to do." Have you considered bringing one of these "fun" things forward and actually showing him that PD or no PD you are still YOU. One final thought. You are both obviously strong minded, extremly competent, high achieving individuals (as witness your careers). I would imagine that there is a stronge element of independence in both your makeups. If this is indeed the case perhaps you both need to become aware that your current situation calls for a Joint Venture/ Combined Ops approach. I hope this is of some help. Dennis.