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At 11:11 AM 2/19/98 EST, [log in to unmask] wrote: >dear cyber-dad-don > >you wrote: >> after reading the mail from the list family >>i had a little pity party on myself. >>i can't spell even with my speller >>or put on paper what is in my heart for all pd's >>janet, barb are just 2 of the family who can >>maybe some day i will some day >>love you all. >>I.Y.Q. >>DON&VIVIAN > >hmph! >so you were feeling a little sorry for yourself >just because you 'can't spell' or >just because you think you can't express your feelings on paper? >[um - cyber-paper?] > >maybe barb and i can express our feelings in a certain way >but we are all unique >and you express your feelings wonderfully in your own way >[so many of us >can find it so difficult to just figure out >what we are feeling, let alone express them] > >as i wrote to you privately the other day: > >------------------------------------------------- >you have a very strong personality >and a very mature and wise outlook on a lot of things >so you should speak your mind > >you help a lot of people when you do >even though you may not realize it > >everyone of us has a different and unique personal history >what may seem 'normal' or 'average' to you >may be unusual to someone else >and vice versa > >i think you might have a tendency to criticize yourself too much >like the majority of people [including me!] > >think of how jesus felt about little children >he loved them for themselves >just as they are >not for anything they have done or not done > >that's the kind of love we need to learn to feel for ourselves > >that doesn't mean we should be egotistic or selfish > >but we need to be >as kind and understanding and forgiving of ourselves >as much as we would be towards anyone else > >it's a hard lesson to learn in our society >which denigrates any idea of 'self-love' >and i think it is especially hard for men > >with all the med changes you've been experiencing lately >your brain chemistry has probably been >affecting some of your perceptions >but not so much >that you are not aware of mr pd and mr don >when they switch places! > >you manage to put a heck of a lot on paper >but i think you 'pooh-pooh' your efforts >because they are not perfectly spelled etc > >remember what i said about loving and forgiving yourself? >do you think god cares about your spelling? >no >god cares about what is in your heart and intentions >and i can't imagine a sweeter, kinder, or more loving heart than yours > >mr pd might just show up once in awhile >specifically in order to make sure you appreciate mr don! > >worrying about whether mr pd shows up >is a waste of energy >like worrying when it rains or snows >the sun always comes out eventually > >there's tons of stuff we don't understand >and never will >so what? > >life is a mystery all in itself >all i know for sure is that we are here to learn and to love >if we understood everything, there'd be nothing left to learn, would there? >------------------------------------------------- > >BTW = by the way, >FWIW = for whatever it's worth, >shedding tears isn't necessarily a sign of sadness >it's a sign of strong emotion that needs to be released >that emotion could be happiness, love, joy, fulfillment, gratitude >et cetera et cetera et cetera > >sorry to repeat so much of my 'private message' to you >but i always think there's no harm >in a little repetitive redundancy > ---------------------- >love > >sis > >janet paterson >50-9 / sinemet-selegiline-prozac >almonte-ontario-canada / [log in to unmask] > > looks i need a dictionary as well as speller lolo these are the things that makes me feel good I.Y.Q. DON&VIVIAN