In ANY circumstance a "positive" will make you or break you. You can wallow in self pity or seek help from others. I work a great deal with people who chose to see a glass Half empty. I realize people react to hardship differently. My pd is hardly easy to deal with. That is probably one reason I'm as effective as I am in helping those who want help to look for the positive. Take it or leave it - I don't feel harsh - just realistic. What you don't do for yourself NO ONE CAN DO FOR YOU. Helenjc