Debbie, I have the phone numbers of two referral services in the L.A. area for senior housing, if that will help. the numbers are: 1/800/330-5993 for Connections Senior Housing Referral Service and 1/800/934-8482 for VIVA Senior Housing Referral. Maybe these people might be able to advise you as to where to get more help in your dilemma. bev