greg i invite you to be as angry as you need to and in whatever way you see that happening! what i see is a lot of angere stuffed in you, and i see thhis because i do the same thing. i put angere and other feelings into shadow where i don't have to own them, or look at them and i think others can't see them. Unfortunately the anger will come out somehow in increased tone and stiffness, as bursts of anger or rage, often at who i love or side ways in sarcasm, judgments or critisms. i beleive it is toxic to hold my feeling in because these shadows have a lot of power when i don't own them. I beleive in honouring all my feelings. For me, this is part of my path to healing. so greg, i honour your angere. yoou do not have to apologize to me. be in all of your feelings. honour them and them let them go. bob farrell ---------- >>