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Murray _Charters wrote: > > Hi Joe, Hi Barb, > > Dear Joe: I have just a couple of thoughts that might or might not shed some > light on your situation. > SNIP > My point here is, that after I stopped looking for a mate, and focusing on > the quality of my own life, someone became attracted to me. I hope you > would like some suggestions, because here is what I would do: I'd sign up > for classes in areas that would excite me (in my case I'd take creative > writing, stained glass making, etc. ) > SNIP > Meeting people in classes, courses, or through friends gives everyone > lots of space, as the focus is on the activity not the people. > I think your request to air this topic was entirely appropriate. I wish you > all the best, Barb R. > > Joe, I took dance classes (ballroom & Latin) as therapy for my > awkwardness (falling down) and therapy for my state of mind. It > was there I met my wife in 1991. We married in 1994 and all I can > say is it certainly worked for me.......... > > I also wish you all the best............Murray > > [log in to unmask] Dear Joe, Barb, and anyone else, Yes I'm single too, and there are things that I resent about it, and I've done a lot of soul-searching in the last year or so. But I have come to the conclusion, that it is not a mate I miss, but a companion. A mate is too intrusive. I value being myself and making my own decisions, and doing things the way I want them, and when I want to. But it would be nice to have someone to go to the movies with, or just a walk, or even a vacation... Someone to talk to in the middle of the night when I can't sleep. Someone to bring me my glasses when I lose them and can't see to find them. And yes, a care giver. I've heard about those. One of those would be nice, I think. I don't know. I've never had one. Oh yes, and someone to discipline the children. Hilary Blue