Gina, I think you hit the nail on the head. "honesty". I just want people to be honest. I do not want to cover up anything. I am not saying that I want to push my disorder in everyone's faces, but I do not want them to blind themselves to it either. I have friends who have been fighting cancer. When I see them and they look, I say so. However, if I see them and they don't look good, I ask how they are and if they think treatment is helping them. I am concerned and not blind. I do not want cancer, but I will not ignore that it exists until I get it. I have friends with diabetes. I am amazed at so many of these people and how they can cope with that disorder. Gina, my hat is off to you. I believe that we just need to be honest with each other and supportive when it is needed, and happy for those who do get better from whatever ails them. In my humble opinion. "don't forget how to laugh, and do it often" [log in to unmask] http://members.tripod.com/~marling