Hi Rita: I struggle so much with disability, doing things around the house, my time, his time, so many questions. I agree that I have to keep up more than would my mate. Even at his worst, I get a lot of the chores. I try to keep up but find it can be impossible sometimes. Either emotionally or physically I just can't get it together. So, now with the added problems, I get so overwhelmed that I just freeze and can't do anything. I hope it will change but if not, I do the best I can. Thanks for your comments. I am not alone. TTFN Gina HUG {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Rita}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}