Re: hesitation about "telling"
>Lorraine wrote:
>
>> My father has recently been diagnosed with Parkinson's disease,
>> however, he has instructed my mother not to let anyone know about
>> this. It has been obvious that there has been a problem for almost
>> 2 years now ...... He is being treated but he does not discuss the
>> details with my mother
Then Phil wrote:
>
>You have not told us enough to understand his reticence, nor do you
>need to if it is not comfortable. Carol Cassidy wrote about denial.
>It is possible other things are going on as well. The following may
>not apply - it is just to illustrate "other things".
Phil named several reasons why one might resist "telling"--another (which
may well not apply to Lorraine's father) is that the person is still
employed, and is in a position where to admit the illness would have a
very negative effect on his/her employment. Not all bosses are as
understanding as some folks on the list have reported theirs to
be.......circumstances alter cases.
As Phil said, we know little about L's. father and can't really be more
specific--but checking with his doc is a good first step.
Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter 80/9+
Oxford, Ohio
http://www.newcountry.nu/pd/members/camilla/one.htm
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