Hi to all the children of PWP. A number of children have written to ask how to deal with their Dads and their reactions to the concerns of their children. As a Clinical and Social Psychologist, and a worker in the health field specializing in PWP and their families, I will offer some ideas, that maybe helpful. First, it is very important to keep in mind the many variables involved in such situations. Probably every one is very different, and their set of circumstances are equally varied. Age, Social Economic Status, Occupation, "Pre-morbid" Personality, Family Dynamics, Cultural Dynamics, and Community Programs, along with Personal Philosophical Belief Systems. Having said that, I would suggest that you children learn as much as you can about Parkinson's Disease, perhaps attending local support groups, and talk to PWP before you approach a discussion with your Dads. Look into the Caregivers web site for additional emotional support. Perhaps you can explore the "feeling state" and understand that feelings are not necessarily rational, but in actuality more powerful than rationality. Understand that most cultures in this world of ours place men in the position of protectors and providers, in a sense we are defined by how well we do such. Most men abhor their state of dependence, we feel guilty, we feel ashamed, we feel impotent, and of little use. Most men are slow to learn that we have attributes that are held in esteem by others. Most of the time we do not take kindly to the idea of causing difficulty to others that we love. The resistance to discussion on the part of your fathers is a way of defending against dealing with the intensity of, and complexity of what is felt. Even those of us with special training in "Human Nature" fall victim, to self imposed standards of "male being". Most of us have a very difficult time acknowledging our needy-ness. We need, you, our children to be patient with us, perhaps more patient then we have been with you. Try to find an activity that you both can do together, one on one time is very important. Try not to be unrealistic in expectations, please go slow with us, we are undergoing many changes. I hope this is helpful to you, our children that are loved so very much. Your question, of itself, speaks of your love of us, and is indeed humbling. Thank you for asking.