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Don W. You might tell dad something like "I'm not 'worrying,'I'm providing useful information because I care about you." What's he gonna say about THAT? "Don't bother caring?" Not likely! <rueful smile> Hang in there, m'friend.... and continue to participate in the PD part of your dad's life, even if he advises you not to. He may THINK he's doing you a favor by having that "don't bother attitude," but your instincts to be of use, to help, to inform, along with loving dad are all very precious and important to his PHYSICAL health as well as his emotional health. Barb Mallut [log in to unmask] -----Original Message----- From: Donald Wilkie <[log in to unmask]> To: Multiple recipients of list PARKINSN <[log in to unmask]> Date: Monday, November 09, 1998 1:45 PM Subject: what to do? >My father is 57 and was diagnosed with PD about 10 years ago. I >would have been only 11 when he first found out, I am now 21. It took him >about 5 >years before he told me about PD and what it was actually about. Ever >since then he has been pretty quite about his condition. I am away at >university right now and find it very hard to communicate with my fater >about his PD. When I try to inquire about how he is feeling or how his >visits with his nuero are he seems to give very quick short responses. >Over the last couple of weeks I noticed that there were postings about >sore necks and shoulders. I decided to foreward some of the ideas along >to my father...feeling that it would be benifical. He then wrote me back >stating that he did not want me to be worrying about his PD and that I had >more important things in life to worry about....needless to say I broke >down in tears. I want to be there for my dad but he just seems to push me >away....what to do? >Does anyone else get the same sort of responses...is this common with PD. >If anyone has any suggestions as to how I could communicate with my father >and learn a little more please let me know. >Thank you > >Don Wilkie >[log in to unmask] > >On Mon, 9 Nov 1998, Terrie W. Whitling wrote: > >> Carole, refigure that birthday - unless I typed it wrong ----if it's 1998 now >> and and if he was born May 28, 1976 that would make him???????? >> >> There's a lot to be said for being off the streets, isn't there? >> I have 2 sons, actually - Matthew, 18 and David, 22, unless I"VE added wrong. >> I am 44 which is OLD ENOUGH for now. >> >