Ivan, I am glad you have some help. I wish you were near to me I would help. Denver is a long commute. I hope you can find a live in care giver soon. I pray for you and I am sorry you family is so stupid. I have gay friends and have lost several to aids and I am saddened by their leaving they were wonderful people. Please hang in, I feel something good will happen soon for you. An industrial sized hug for you. Nancyy Denver co. absentee care giver for my mom in NY