Gerry wrote that because of the "macho" thing men have a difficult tme expressing their feelings. I'm not sure if it is due to the macho thing as much as it is factor of who they have to express their feelings to and the comfort level they feel. My former wife was a very dependent person who expected and looked to me to take charge and make all the bad things go away. She certainly didn't want to hear my fears or frustrations and that is a big reason why she is my former wife. Pam is my partner in everything. She expects and wants open and honest communication. For that reason I have no problem expressing my feelings. Just ask anyone who has attended a support group meeting where ihave spoken. Let's get some reaction to this.