Thanks to everyone for respecting my choice no to become involved in the discussions about abortion. Please understand that I do indeed, read & think about everything that is written. I just don't feel adequately equipped to address this highly emotional issue. I do, however, agree with Ken about checking our brains when we enter our chosen place of worship. It is my feeling that anyone can be brainlessly religious; but those of us who have been seekers (scientology, B'hai-to name a few that I looked into) & who have been graduated from the school of hard knocks (mostly self-inflicted) & who have reached their beliefs thru true reflection & soul-searching have indeed found something to hang onto. It has never been my intention to in any way be "holier-than-thou" about anything...something about glass houses! Now, about parents-my mom, for instance...I deeply love & care about my mommy! She is my best friend & I couldn't do it without her. What my family went thru with my dad & Alzheimer's actually made us all stronger in our love for each other. The reasons that sometimes I find it hard to accept her help are so very complex but I think that if I ever let myself drown in her uncompromising, unquestioning love, I would be so content to allow myself to being cared for that i would never try to do anything for myself again. People ask me why I push myself to do as much as I do. Is it because that I'm scared to death that if I stop I will never go again? Love, j