Some of you may remember Barbara Yacos, a fellow PWP who was involved with us back in the early days of this list. She has been a member of my small group for years and I have grown quite fond of her wit, her positive thinking and her love for life. Her husband, Jim, retired recently. In their remaining years there was a lot of discussion about where they would spend the "golden years" of their life - both Californis and Florida were options - when Jim started having a few stomach problems. To make a long story short, Jim was operated on today in Boston. Operated is the wrong word. They opened him up, took a look at all the cancer, and closed him back up. He has less than a month to live. Barbara needs our support. If you know her, and even if you don't, a few caring words might help them through this painful time in their life. Her email address is: [log in to unmask] I make fun of my relationship with my wife quite often, which I'm able to do because of the security I feel in our love for one another. Bringing a situation like this into a personal "what if," I can sense the horror I would feel. If it says nothing else, let Barbara's experience make us realize how very important each single moment we have with our loved one really is. All the plans for all the tomorrows can be swept away in the blink of an eye. Jerry Finch -- Do all your Holiday Shopping from home! Barnes & Noble Gift Center http://newcountry.nu/holiday.htm