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> >Dear John, and the list (and soon the whole world)
> > I am just a little concerned. About going public. Yes me, The same me
> >that
> >asked Parbara patterson why the responses to her survey about
> >publishing
> >everything to the whole list wasn't published to the whole list?
> >Because
> >there is a difference, you see.
> >I'm really a very private person. But I open up to my friends. To
> >those
> >people I feel close to, and I feel are close to me. And that is what
> >the list
> >has become for me. A group of close intimate frineds with whom I can
> >share my
> >innermost fears, and my pride in my successes.
> >And when  we go on line, I lose that.
> >That intimacy,that bond of caring, is what makes the list so
> >special.And the
> >feeling that we were all part of something, something that we shared.
> >And now
> >something else has changed.  The balance of power is disturbed - no
> >the
> >balance of power has been created. There was no sense of onesidedness
> >before.
>
>
> >Maybe this
> >was decided while I was in Israel - and I missed the discussion on the
> >list?
> >About whether we go on line and share our private, intimate, personal
> >ways of
> >dealing with our lifecrises. No, folks, I'm sorry, but I will not feel
> >free to
> >participate if I know the whole world - friend and foe alike, is
> >watching
> >me. Whether they do or not, just knowing they can  inhibits my ability
> >to speak
> >freely.
> > I know I am a fairly new member, and I haven't seen the list grow up,
> >like
> >some of you have. But it has become very dear to me - and so have you
> >all. I
> >feel almost a sense of betrayal, to be cast out in the wide cold
> >public again.
> >Am I the only one who feels like this? I am sure there are others of
> >you out
> >there who feel this way. I am not unique. Speak up before it is too
> >late!
> >
> >hiLary bLue (50/33/24)