Dear Janice: Perhaps someone needs to point out to your husband that IF HE WILL EDUCATE HIMSELF NOW,PERHAPS, THINGS WILL NEVER "GET REAL BAD" (Whatever that means for him- to me , it got real bad the day my husband was diagnosed) Also, TO BE AN EFFECTIVE CAREGIVER, HE NEEDS TO CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS AHEAD OF HIS OWN.... Hope you don't mind my "butting in"...... Marie CarePartner for husband 69/l2