Dear Bill: My thoughts are with you in your truly demanding family situations..... I would like to pose two questions to think about ..... l. Who do you feel created the "hereditary components" (without the flaws)? 2. Is there anyone, more perfect, more capable you feel SHOULD control you life, if you were to want ? You truly deserve respect for the insightful attitude you expressed about such trials in your life...........I would not mind hearing more of your feelings, if you care to share............... Mare carepartner husband 70/l3 [log in to unmask]