hi all my 'power' as a list mom is an illusion based on fear [but the pay is pretty good] 1. work in progress: the most significant thing i've learned lately is we cannot change the way others behave we can only change the way we react to that behaviour i have a choice as to whether i feel [a] angry [b] shocked [c] dismayed [d] delighted [e] indifferent in my response to your message each one of us can make the same choice about each one of our messages 2. goal: where love rules, there is no will to power. and where power predominates, love is lacking. the one is the shadow of the other. 3. reality: power = clean dishes janet a new voice janet paterson 52 now / 41 dx / 37 onset snail-mail: PO Box 171 Almonte Ontario K0A 1A0 Canada website: a new voice <http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Village/6263/> e-mail: <[log in to unmask]>