Mercedes - you wrote: << I understand that this was a very different case but someone got an un requested email, made it public and debated it with anyone who chose to comment. The problem that I have is I am now afraid to answer someone privately for fear of it being published to the list. All I can say is someone had a wonderful idea to bring people together with a "common cause". I wish it could work. The thought of people dropping out now is sad. I can't imagine that you will ever write something someone would object to, but I can say from experience that many list members have heard from this particular writer (who is now not a listmember but apparently still monitors list mail); they can tell you that he makes a habit of writing nasty letters to people he disagrees with. I hesitated to even answer your letter because I didn't want to hear from him again, but I can assure you that if I hear from this particular writer off list, it will immediately be sent to the list as a whole. I can't imagine every doing that with another writer, but there's a long history here. Meanwhile, I've been busy deleting all the pig messages (I do appreciate the accurate headers), but wouldn't mind if there were fewer to delete. I enjoy humor as much as amyone, but am not at a place in my life right now that I can take time for that much off-topic mail. My husband, the PWP, finds it more difficult to read and delete, and has about given reading the listmail. Margie