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hi all why did i post 'stalking'? 1. not to 'upset' anyone / not to whine 'poor me' purely to clarify some of my background experience which constituted part of my heated reaction to david's personal attacks on carole see i said it again i referred to the latest 'list-kefuffle' in real terms say the names call a spade a spade my heated reaction of the moment gained moderation partly as a result of hard re-thinking partly as a result of discussion with edward and dennis and darwin 2. silence and secrecy = fertile ground for intimidation and manipulation easy, do-nothing, non-solution 3. open discussion and debate = understanding and growth difficult and uncomfortable work 4. whose 'fault'? i did nothing wrong in the 'stalking' scenario i did not cause mr.nobody's growing obsession the flaw was / is in his perception filters not mine likewise carole did nothing to 'deserve' david's personal attacks 5. life is difficult these situations remind me of others abuse, sexual harrassment, rape which are mostly perpetrated by men against women and which mostly retain their power to intimidate through silence and secrecy not pleasant to think about but reality sort of like having pd 6. life is for learning this list is a miracle of our time miracles have more than one side this list is a gift the gift has a price these disturbing events are not 'curses' or 'retribution' they are tasks challenges gauntlets thrown down it is our choice to step over them and learn nothing and grow nowhere or take them up 7. i am here to celebrate finding my own voice and the power in it so are you 8. your turn janet janet paterson 52 now / 41 dx / 37 onset snail-mail: PO Box 171 Almonte Ontario K0A 1A0 Canada website: a new voice <http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Village/6263/> e-mail: <[log in to unmask]>