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At 18:20 11-8-99 -0400, janet paterson wrote: I did hear recently from some of the formerly active listmembers >who left due to those personal and private attacks >and they still express fear of exposing >themselves to more attacks >by posting to the list > >they feel this vulnerabiliity even when david is not a listmember >how would you 'support' such a list-member? Janet Is this a real problem of that formerly active listmember, you mention? Would she be eager, to be active again without that terrible threat? If she is really vulnerable to such an extent, I suppose that that has a much broader inhibiting influence in her life. People with so much vulnerability should be protected in the first place, but if she was my friend I, being a professional psychotherapist, would advice her to go to one of my collegues and get some treatment, because I think being thin-skinned to such an extent is a problem that mostly can be treated with some success. It is my experience that thin-skinned people often interpret such an advice as if it means it is all their fault, which is not. One can't protect people with psychotherapy against agression which is expressed by bullits. But to help people to protect themselves against agression (real or misinterpreted as such) expressed by words, send to one's computer, seems not to be impossible at all. Ida -------------------------------------------------------------- Vriendelijke Groeten / Kind regards, Ida Kamphuis mailto: [log in to unmask]