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Bravo,janet!(And Ida, too.)Think I'm now ready to get my feet wet. Feel a little bit like Dorothy...Carole H. --- janet paterson <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > hi all > > At 12:21 1999/08/13 +0200, ida wrote: > >Is this a real problem of that formerly active > listmember, you mention? > >Would she be eager, to be active again without that > terrible threat? If she > >is really vulnerable to such an extent, I suppose > that that has a much > >broader inhibiting influence in her life. > >People with so much vulnerability should be > protected in the first place, > >but if she was my friend I, being a professional > psychotherapist, would > >advice her > >to go to one of my collegues and get some > treatment, because I think being > >thin-skinned to such an extent is a problem that > mostly can be treated with > >some success. It is my experience that thin-skinned > people often interpret > >such an advice as if it means it is all their > fault, which is not. One > >can't protect people with psychotherapy against > agression which is > >expressed by bullits. But to help people to protect > themselves against > >agression (real or misinterpreted as such) > expressed by words, send to > >one's computer, seems not to be impossible at all. > > > >Ida > > in other words > rather than let someone 'push my buttons' > i learn to use velcro? > > or > rather than let someone 'know where my goats are > kept' > i learn to laugh heartily at such foolish trickery? > > i agree with you > > i guess i have to look at all of this upset > as a given > as a test > to learn from > if i am to believe and live by my own oft-repeated > advice > > i will also remember that > cowardly and manipulative behaviour > garners power over sender and receiver through > secrecy > and that such false power can be dissipated 'poof' > just by opening up the curtains wide > like in the wizard of oz > > no-one > has the power to make me feel weak > but me > > > janet > > > janet paterson > 52 now / 41 dx / 37 onset > snail-mail: PO Box 171 Almonte Ontario K0A 1A0 > Canada > website: a new voice > <http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Village/6263/> > e-mail: <[log in to unmask]> > _________________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Get your free @yahoo.com address at http://mail.yahoo.com