Dear Jenny: When Barbara gets into such a position, which she does in a milder way, I tell her to stop everything, put any utensil down, if she can, and then relax, think of nothing but what you are doing, and take a deep breath...and another, until she is relaxed and more controlled. Pick the utensil and start eating with nothing else in mind except to concentrate only on eating. It is not a great way out of it, but it often helps, and the same with festination. Michel