YES! You were right to tell the administrator, even if it meant
"breaking his conmfidence". He is apparently incompetent to act or think
reasonably, and your role is guardian and protector. You could check with
your county HUman Services Agency abour Adult Protective Services---sounds
as if he needs help. The nurse MAY have meant well, but you have to
question the situation, when she acts in that manner without any checking
with either the family or her boss. Sounds like potential exploitation to
me-----just the fact that a nurse (surely not an RN ? ) gave alcohol to an
alcoholic is a warning signal in itself !
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>A young nurse in the facility has told him that he does not belong in
>the facility. He should be out living in HER house. The nurse lives
>with her two children and mother and does not have a room for Sherman.
>But she said that he could live there for less than in the facility and
>he would have some money. (We are not talking large sums here, he has
>only Social Security and welfare). The trip overnight was to show him
>her home. He said he had five drinks. SNIPPED
We thought of confronting the nurse to explain Sherman does need to be
>there. But we decided we should tell the administrator. She was
>appalled! She will take care of the situation. The administrator said
>that she had had complaints about a nurse that was spending too much
>time in my brother's room. She was planning to talk to the nurse about
>that anyway.
>
>If Sherman leaves the facility he will lose his welfare benefits and
>would not be able to get back into the state health care system. He
>children for varies reason refuse to help. My sister and I do as much
>as we can to make this easier, but can not take over his care.
>
>My question to PWP, Caregivers, and whomever, is did we do the right
>thing in telling the administrator, breaking Sherman's confidences.
>
>Chris
>
>PS: Sherman said the nurse told his he was "cute" and kissed him on the
>cheek. He was thrilled. What is it about you old codgers that make you
>believe anything a sweet young things coos to you? ;·)
Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter 81/70/55
Oxford, Ohio
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