Dear Janet / List Elf---
You wrote:
>if anyone can point out to me
>where my words have appeared harsh
>i would be grateful
Taking this not as defensive, but as a genuine request on your part, I will
try to explain how I see it.
In my opinion, the following exchange was what Michel heard as "hurtful"--
Michel wrote:
<But the worse part of that, is that it repelled many newcomers
>who wanted to discuss strictly PD matters, and some old timers
>who could not cope with the inordinate size or number of the E-mail,
>and felt forced to abandon us...
Janet replied:
...if not, i suggest that your statements are not only false
but negative and inflammatory and awfulizing and catastrophizing
viz the emotional baggage of your words
'worst' 'repelled' 'inordinate' 'forced' and 'abandon'
My "perception" of this paragraph is that it is a personal attack on Michel
who was stating what was, I believe, an accurate summary of many past posts
to the list. I have to admit I cringed when I read it. I realize you may
not have intended it as an attack, but as vigorous discourse, and haven't
understood how your words may come across to others. Unfortunately, as
you have often pointed out, perceptions can vary---and that is why I AGAIN
suggest that when such disagreements arise they may better be clarified
one-to-one rather than on the whole list---this has become, after all , a
"non-pd" matter . No one is suggesting censorship or throttling your
voice, or trying to control you--- but you ASKED to have this pointed out
to you, so I am granting your request, in the hope that you may be able to
temper your tone when you realize how it can affect others.
Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter 81/70/55
Oxford, Ohio
http://www.newcountry.nu/pd/members/camilla/one.htm
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