Dear Hilary---You may not like my reply--but you and I have discussed this
whole situation for a long time. My gut reaction is that if you"cut" the
meeting without an OK from"higher ups" you will really be in danger of the
threat being carried out. I do NOT apporove at all of the way this whole
thing is handled---I have asked you many times if you still have a
therapist who is ON YOUR SIDE who can intervene--you haven't answered,
which I take to mean "no".
Please note IF POSSIBLE Janet's caution about approaching this
unemotionally ( HA!) with a supervisor,etc. You have a difficult
relationship with the direst service workers, for many and complex reasons,
and to alienate a supervisor by what would be seen as "unreasonable"
behavior can't help.
It does seem terribly unfair that the meeting can't be rescheduled, and I
would see this as punishment---I would NEVER have treated a client that
way, believbe me. BUT I am NOT your worker, and you have to deal with what
you've got. Ignorance + bad past experiences+who knows what else?
I would suggest you consider this: Follow up at once with the higher
ups--is it too late for that already, as hearing is tomorrow? BUT IF you
can't go through channels--I think you have to go to the meeting---don't
give them that ammunition to use against you!!!! They would do so in a
flash, I fear. The hearing will go as it goes without yoiu or me--sad to
say, you are not testifying. THEN afterwards you have a bone to pick with
the powers that be. I fear that at this point in the relationships, calls
from list members might be seen as harrassment and be counter-productive.
It's a hard choice--but of course your kids come first, and that's the
bottom line, isn't it?
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hilary"}}}}}}}}}}}}
>Those d-----d social workers.
>May G-d bless them and keep them ...... far away from me!!!!!!!!
>
>i just called the chief sw to tell her i would prblaby not be able to make
>our meeting tomorrow because of the senate hearing, and she replied -
>Well, I guess you have to decide what is more important to you - going to a
>senate hearing or having your child come home to live with you, In her best
>self righteous tone, she says - because these meetings are very important and
>they'll decide whether jessi is recommended to come home permanently.
>So i called Senator Jane Woods,SNIPPED
Camilla Flintermann <[log in to unmask]>
http://www.newcountry.nu/pd/members/camilla/one.htm
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"... Meet people where they are now,
not where you hope they might be, eventually."
--Christine Greenland
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