Hilary, I have to say, go to the meeting, to make sure you don't give them any excuse. I went to an out of town school for my job and missed my daughter high School graduation, a few years ago. I was told if I did not go my job was "not as secure", so I thought I had no choice. The equipment I went to the school for was dropped shortly after, it was wasted time, the person who threatened my job is long gone, and Jamie always makes little comments, about how I missed her graduation. I hope I never have to make a decision like that again, but if I do, the kids will come first! Believe me I am not taking the side of the SW, I wish I was in a position to have her lose her position! I hope in the future you will have the upper hand over her and we are all behind you. I am sure you will get a lot of other opinions on this matter. Good luck. Ken B