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I don't know how your are going to do it, but yes you must get your brother to sign that Power of Attorney. I was able to manage with a power of attorney for years, then finally had to take custody. It was not a court battle, because the whole town knew me and had for years, even though I had never lived there. The judge made it easy for me ( legally ). I don't know where you live, but look into the state laws. It is very difficult for you I know. It is just that you must. Nita Chris Campbell wrote: > Camilla, Sherry, Hilary, Nita, Teresa > > Thank you all for responding. It is so helpful to get advise from those > that know what both me and my brother are going through at this time in > our lives. > > I have had mixed feeling about telling Sherman the truth about PD. I > don't know why, because I have my own chronic, untreatable, fatal cancer > to live with, (fatal - live with, its being done). I want to know > everything and belong to a list such as this one. I think I know more > about my cancer than my doctor does. > > I will make a notebook for Sherman with copies of email from this list, > printouts of articles about PD. Do the same for him as I do for myself. > > My sister and I have talked about guardianship. I called to find out > the particulars, and have decided we, nor he, is ready for that step. > (He is still where he belongs). I do have a Power of Attorney document > for him to sign. I have been hesitant to ask him. But I do believe it > is time for me to start treating him like an adult. > > He is in a facility that is clean and well run. All the patients that > are up and around seems to be as comfortable and content as they can be > given their illness. He could not find a better place, just different. > My sister visits two to three times a week, she is nearby. I live a > distance away, but go out every week. We have niece that also visits > when she can. > > He is very passive. He listens to what we say, but because of his PD, he > has very little facial expression anymore. But, every time any of the > employees or patients see Sherman, they get a smile on their face and > say something nice to him or about him. The "little old ladies" just > get a twitter when they see him! They flirt with him and he just smiles > his little smile. Its strange, because Sherman can barely speak. Also, > He attends all of the functions that are presented. > > I imagine all of us have said over and over again that we don't want to > be a burden for our children. However, it seems that whenever one of us > reach the stage where we need to be cared for, we have forgotten that > pledge to ourselves. Maybe it is because old age comes so quickly. > > Thanks again guys, I, like everyone else, is grateful for this list. > Most of all I am thankful for the people on the list, willing to share > their lives with others. > > Chris > PWP-brother Sherman, 73/8