Dear Kathy Patrick--- Please understnad that NO ONE was criticising your
solution to the needs of your mother and husband--if this is a possible way
for you to cope with their illnesses, I'm sure they did and will appreciate
the loving care you give them..
BUT please realize that not all children or spouses are as able as you to
give the care that some patients need. Many of us are ourselves in
uncertain health, or have the responsibilities of caring for our own young
families, and are unable to give the kind of care needed, much as we would
like to.
I am sorry that you feel offended by the attempts to point this out---with
something like PD it is a matter of "different strokes for different folks,
" for sure. I see nothing to be gained by adding to the guilt that some
may feel for not being able to make the choice you have made. Having to
separate from a loved one in order for them to get proper care---after
finding a place where they CAN get it--is painful enough.
And there ARE excellent and caring nursing homes, where medical needs can
be met, leaving family members free to spend "qualuity time" with their
loved ones, without being made exhausted and cranky by sleepless nights,
and physical care beyond their strength. And some PWPs actually choose to
be in a nursing home as an expression of the love they feel for family, and
their wish not to be a "burden".
Your husband is fortunate that you are ABLE to care for him at home. But
please take care of yourself, too, or you won't be able to be there for
him! And please respect the right of others to make the choices that work
best in their individual situations, as we respect your right to do the
same.
Kathy Patrick wrote in part---
> But I took care of my Mother at home until She died . She had
>Alhemizers & many other things
>wrong with her & probably PD also. I took care of her at home until She
>died. Now I will take care of my Husband for the rest of his Days.
> He does have PD.& Alhemizers & has had 7
>major strokes, & I can care for him at home.
>yes ,you did offend Me very much.
> So PLEASE TAKE MY NAME OFF YOUR MAILING LIST NOW PLEASE.
> THANK YOU,
> Kathy Patrick
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Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter 81/70/55
Oxford, Ohio
http://www.newcountry.nu/pd/members/camilla/one.htm
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