thanks janet. after 15 years, you would think both her parents and mine would make more of an effort to accept us and each other, but unfortunantly, neither side will. When i had dawana to back me up, she controlled her folks and i did mine. whithout her help, they are whip-sawing me, and i just want my life back. surgery in 20 min, gotta go bob ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com