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It is good to be able to paraphrase Aristotle and other Greek or French or German philosopher, and to be objective about anger or any other emotion in the abstract or in academic circles. At this stage of my life, I prefer good music to philosophy to cope with anger when it arises. Exposing or venting my anger does not fully provide sufficient relief, and many times the anger may still be seething. If the subject is of trivial importance, I can just toss it aside rather than participate. If possible, I'll try to convert or just diminish the importance of the contentious subjects. I find that anger exacerbates the Parkinson symptoms in Barbara and increase my blood sugar level. It just does not pay. Michel Bernard Barber,Ph.D. wrote: > Aristotle said, " Anyone can become angry, that is easy, but to be angry > with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the > right purpose, and in the right way, that is not so easy. > > "When used early on and constructively, anger can be a transformation: it > sparks courage and creativity, draws us towards correcting perceived > injustice, prompts us to speak out, and stimulates progress." from > Executive EQ, Emotional Intelligence in Leadership and Organizations, by > Robert Cooper, Ph.D and Ayman Sawaf. > > I would add that personal attacks, character assassination, and other forms > of belittling, speak more to the character of the "attacker", and is > counter productive. Emotional Health requires authenticity of feelings. The > denial of feelings produces ill health and destroys the quality of > relationship with self and others. Our collective WE demands from us the > understanding that WELLNESS does not come with out great effort, which in > itself promotes health. > > No one said it was easy.