Hi Sue, You said, > now they want to put him in a nursing home (temporarily?) til he > gains > weight an strength. dad is 83-mom 82. anyway, my mission is to help mom > make some of the hard decisions. > What a hard time this is for all of you! Is your Dad able to help in making the decisions? If his mind is good but he is just too weak to participate at this time try to find a way to find out what he is thinking, all of you will feel better about it in the end. If he can't participate that is another story. I know your parents will be helped just by having you there. My prayers are with all of you. Kathy W