hi all learning how easy it is to create a fake persona / identity on the net can result in feelings of betrayal, of confusion, of loss: betrayal of confidence and of trust confusion about who the 'players' really are loss of a sense of community and of safety on the list this situation can be used as a classic example of the concepts i've hammered away at in my 'perceptions' posts viz: A. our thoughts create our emotions, not vice versa [remember 'becker pizza', ken?] and B. we have a choice as to how we think and therefore we have a choice as to how we feel our outlook and our awareness may have changed but the list and the net are no less 'safe' now than they were six months ago i keep reminding myself i cannot change the way anyone else behaves i can only change the way i behave and i am not responsible for the way others behave [towards me] i am only responsible for the way i behave [towards others] some may choose to view the possibility of list-imposters: 1. as paranoia on my part 2. as a sick perversion of the list's intent 3. as a manifestation of someone's otherwise silent suffering the possible activity is the same in each scenario the possible response is our choice steve 'n' me choose three janet janet paterson 52 now / 41 dx / 37 onset e-mail - [log in to unmask] web-site - http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Village/6263/