Jeff, your father must have been awful proud of you for you to write a
tribute to dad.  Dwelling on the good times you had is consoling.  God
bless.
Ervin McCarthy
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From: "Jeff Bayard" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, November 09, 2002 3:23 PM
Subject: Re: Dad, Thanksgivings and yes, ER and PD/it does destroy your
life, just wait and see


> Rayilyn, yes, that hits home. I do not have PD, but Dad did.  He was
> diagnosed in
>  '99 and he was a medical doctor, M.D.
> (http://dialforacure.com/html/company.html)
>  He was devastated, and he fought with  all the resourses he had. His
> condition was
>  not the normal with the physical dehabilitating happenings over many
years,
> but his
>   was a mental melt down. Folks that say "it takes a long time", well that
> is plain false.
> Dad passed in less than 3 years.  And what really hurt, was that HE KNEW
> what
> was happening. Thats the thing, you know what is happening, but you can't
do
> much
> about it, but pray, love, and suffer, and not always in that order.  He
did
> all he could.
> In the end days, from late December of 2000 to Jan 2001, and finally Feb
2,
> 2001,
> (http://www.tryondailybulletin.com/Obits/Obits.asp?ArticleID=1568)
>  he was going through the  downward spiral, He was the best Dad, greatest
> Physician,
> and an awesome Husband to Mom.  People that say "its not painful" are just
> blind, and just
> dont know. They need "educating", thats all.
> People that make any kind of comment that "angers" you, they just don't
>  know. I know I will never understand the "core" of what you folks are
> suffering, as I
> do not have PD, but I know the pain of being a first hand witness to my
own
> Dad,
> I still hurt today when I rehash the memories of the latter years.
> I cannot dwell on that, or Dad would truly have an issue with that!  Dad
was
> a disciplinarian,
> (strict!), and very conservative, tedious, meticulous, and very focused
all
> his life. He believed in Duty, God,
> Country, doing your best, following through, and humour, love,
...........If
> he knew
> I was "dwelling" on his last days, he would truly have a fit.
> He would tell me, : "Jeff, remember the good days!, I love you, Jeff, and
> dwell on the good
> memories, remember the days when we talked, when we walked, when we loved
> each other,
> do not dwell on the bad, but the good, I await our reunion, stay the
course,
> fight the good fight!"
> Like all the wonderful Thanksgivings we had! He called me "Foffy" when he
> really wanted to
> tell me he loved me.
> I can see his face, his smile, his eyes, his stature, and I can feel his
> embrace, whew! man-o-man,
> what a Dad!
> Thank-ya Jesus for the Dad I had!
> Keep typing Rayilyn, thanks.
>  jeff
> Help Find the Cure!
> http://dialforacure.com
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Rayilyn Brown" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Saturday, November 09, 2002 4:12 PM
> Subject: ER and PD/it does destroy your life, just wait and see
>
>
> > To those of you writing about  how PD has destroyed your life I, add my
> > voice, which I am losing now.
> >
> > It is a real problem that the public does not understand what it really
> does
> > to MOST OF US.  Unfortunately, those PWP who are able to work (and they
> have
> > every right to do so if they can) give an impression to the public that
it
> is
> > not such a big deal and you have an "almost normal life', like I did
when
> I
> > had ovarian cancer.
> >
> > When i was DX over 6 yrs ago a friend of my mother commented "at least
> it's
> > not painful", another,, "it takes a long time".  I can't express my
anger
> > over those ignorant remarks, but that is what we are facing.  It just
> doesn't
> > look too bad to others who don't know what it is like to shake
eternally,
> for
> > only one symptom.
> >
> > I can't do anything anymore but wait for the end and correct my
one-handed
> > typing on the computer.  Rayilyn
> >
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