Dear Sami,

Mary Ann is right. it is very important that your friend be assessed for
depression and treated if necessary.

I am concerned about your welfare. Your kindness is touching and admirable
and your friend is lucky to have you. However, I see a risk for you. If your
friend should again attempt or even complete suicide, you might feel a sense
of responsibility and your own mental health could be in jeopardy.

I wish I had some brilliant suggestions for you, but I don't. I can only say
that if I were in your shoes I think I would contact a social services
agency to seek professional guidance on dealing with this difficult
situation.

Good luck,

Kathleen

2009/8/21 Sami <[log in to unmask]>

> Hi Mary Ann,
>
> I'm sure it was included in the tests he started.  Unfortunately, he
> thought
> he knew more than his physicians and has refused to go to any doctor
> whatsoever since before I began helping him.  He now is convinced he is
> turning to stone and other than listening to him and doing his errands, I
> have given up making suggestions since he then turns away from me too.
>
> Sami
>
>
> Sami, one of the first signs of PD is depression.  I'm wondering if your
> friend is being treated for the disorder?
> --------
> Mary Ann
> www.bentwillowfarm.org
>
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>
> From: "Sami" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Monday, August 17, 2009 4:39 AM
> Subject: Re: a thought
>
> Moneesha,
>
> The Christopher H. Brewer beatitudes blew me away and brought me to tears.
> May I borrow this e-mail so I can take it to a friend who cannot see the
> positive side not only of his illness but life itself?  This has caused him
> to attempt suicide twice. I have only known him since October 2008. My goal
> has been to give him 'goals' to reach.  We made it past Halloween; then
> Thanksgiving; Christmas; the NewYear;  Valentine's Day; my birthday  etc
> etc
> His negativity has been wearing me down and I hadn't realized I have been
> losing my 'empathy and compassion'  until I read your e-mail to Dr. Chew. I
> have to stop dragging myself to his house....and go with a happy smile;  I
> have to drive him around town....and stop thinking about what else I could
> be doing;  I have to cut his hair.....and quit griping to myself because he
> s embarrassed to have his ex-barber see him now.  There are many other
> things I could add, but I think you get the idea.  At first I thought he
> could use the beatitudes but then, after reading it many times, I came to
> the realization that I was the one who needed them back!
>
>
>
> Sami
>
>
>
> -------Original Message-------
>
>
>
> From: Moneesha Sharma
> Date: 8/15/2009 11:25:16 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
>
> Subject: Re: a thought
>
> Dear Dr. Chew,
>
> How right you are about education, but what is also needed is empathy and
> Compassion.  I am posting here something that was posted by a fellow CG on
> CARE.  His wife, who is a PD patient now fairly advanced, had saved it on
> Their computer.  I think you might find it useful -
>
>
> Blessed are you that never bids us "hurry up" and more blessed are you that
> Do not snatch our tasks from our hands to do them for us, for often we need
> Time rather than help.
>
>
> Blessed are you who take time to listen to defective speech, for you help
> us
>
> To know that if we persevere, we can be understood.
>
>
> Blessed are you who walk with us in public places and ignore the stares of
> Strangers, for in your companionship we find havens of relaxation.
>
>
> Blessed are you who stand beside us as we enter new ventures, for our
> Failures will be outweighed by times we surprise ourselves and you.
>
>
> Blessed are you who ask for our help, for our greatest need is to be needed
>
>
> Blessed are you when by all these things you assure us that the thing that
> Makes us individuals is not our peculiar muscles, nor our wounded nervous
> System, but the God-given self that no infirmity can confine.
>
>
> Blessed are those who realize that I am human and don't expect me to be
> Saintly just because I am disabled.
>
>
> Blessed are those who understand that sometimes I am weak and not just lazy
>
>
> Blessed are those who pick things up without being asked.
>
>
> Blessed are those who forget my disability of the body and see me as a
> whole
>
> Person, unique and complete, and not as "half" and one of God's mistakes.
>
>
> Blessed are those who love me just as I am without wondering what I might
> Have been like.
>
>
> Blessed are my friends on whom I depend, for they are the substance and joy
> Of my life!!!!
>
> "A true handicap is what we don't do with what we have, not what we can't
> do
>
> With what we don't have."
>
> Christopher H. Brewer
>
>
>
> All the best in the wonderful work you are doing.
>
> Moneesha
>
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