At 11:11 AM 2/19/98 EST, [log in to unmask] wrote:
>dear cyber-dad-don
>
>you wrote:
>> after reading the mail from the list family
>>i had a little pity party on myself.
>>i can't spell even with my speller
>>or put on paper what is in my heart for all pd's
>>janet, barb are just 2 of the family who can
>>maybe some day i will some day
>>love you all.
>>I.Y.Q.
>>DON&VIVIAN
>
>hmph!
>so you were feeling a little sorry for yourself
>just because you 'can't spell' or
>just because you think you can't express your feelings on paper?
>[um - cyber-paper?]
>
>maybe barb and i can express our feelings in a certain way
>but we are all unique
>and you express your feelings wonderfully in your own way
>[so many of us
>can find it so difficult to just figure out
>what we are feeling, let alone express them]
>
>as i wrote to you privately the other day:
>
>-------------------------------------------------
>you have a very strong personality
>and a very mature and wise outlook on a lot of things
>so you should speak your mind
>
>you help a lot of people when you do
>even though you may not realize it
>
>everyone of us has a different and unique personal history
>what may seem 'normal'  or 'average' to you
>may be unusual to someone else
>and vice versa
>
>i think you might have a tendency to criticize yourself too much
>like the majority of people [including me!]
>
>think of how jesus felt about little children
>he loved them for themselves
>just as they are
>not for anything they have done or not done
>
>that's the kind of love we need to learn to feel for ourselves
>
>that doesn't mean we should be egotistic or selfish
>
>but we need to be
>as kind and understanding and forgiving of ourselves
>as much as we would be towards anyone else
>
>it's a hard lesson to learn in our society
>which denigrates any idea of 'self-love'
>and i think it is especially hard for men
>
>with all the med changes you've been experiencing lately
>your brain chemistry has probably been
>affecting some of your perceptions
>but not so much
>that you are not aware of mr pd and mr don
>when they switch places!
>
>you manage to put a heck of a lot on paper
>but i think you 'pooh-pooh' your efforts
>because they are not perfectly spelled etc
>
>remember what i said about loving and forgiving yourself?
>do you think god cares about your spelling?
>no
>god cares about what is in your heart and intentions
>and i can't imagine a sweeter, kinder, or more loving heart than yours
>
>mr pd might just show up once in awhile
>specifically in order to make sure you appreciate mr don!
>
>worrying about whether mr pd shows up
>is a waste of energy
>like worrying when it rains or snows
>the sun always comes out eventually
>
>there's tons of stuff we don't understand
>and never will
>so what?
>
>life is a mystery all in itself
>all i know for sure is that we are here to learn and to love
>if we understood everything, there'd be nothing left to learn, would there?
>-------------------------------------------------
>
>BTW = by the way,
>FWIW = for whatever it's worth,
>shedding tears isn't necessarily a sign of sadness
>it's a sign of strong emotion that needs to be released
>that emotion could be happiness, love, joy, fulfillment, gratitude
>et cetera et cetera et cetera
>
>sorry to repeat so much of my 'private message' to you
>but i always think there's no harm
>in a little repetitive redundancy
>            ----------------------
>love
>
>sis
>
>janet paterson
>50-9 / sinemet-selegiline-prozac
>almonte-ontario-canada / [log in to unmask]
>
> looks i need a dictionary as well as speller lolo these are the things
that makes me feel good I.Y.Q. DON&VIVIAN