Bravo,janet!(And Ida, too.)Think I'm now ready to get
my feet wet. Feel a little bit like Dorothy...Carole
H.

--- janet paterson <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> hi all
>
> At 12:21 1999/08/13 +0200, ida wrote:
> >Is this a real problem of that formerly active
> listmember, you mention?
> >Would she be eager, to be active again without that
> terrible threat? If she
> >is really vulnerable to such an extent, I suppose
> that that has a much
> >broader inhibiting influence in her life.
> >People with so much vulnerability should be
> protected in the first place,
> >but if she was my friend I, being a professional
> psychotherapist, would
> >advice her
> >to go to one of my collegues and get some
> treatment, because I think being
> >thin-skinned to such an extent is a problem that
> mostly can be treated with
> >some success. It is my experience that thin-skinned
> people often interpret
> >such an advice as if it means it is all their
> fault, which is not. One
> >can't protect people with psychotherapy against
> agression which is
> >expressed by bullits. But to help people to protect
> themselves against
> >agression (real or misinterpreted as such)
> expressed by words, send to
> >one's computer, seems not to be impossible at all.
> >
> >Ida
>
> in other words
> rather than let someone 'push my buttons'
> i learn to use velcro?
>
> or
> rather than let someone 'know where my goats are
> kept'
> i learn to laugh heartily at such foolish trickery?
>
> i agree with you
>
> i guess i have to look at all of this upset
> as a given
> as a test
> to learn from
> if i am to believe and live by my own oft-repeated
> advice
>
> i will also remember that
> cowardly and manipulative behaviour
> garners power over sender and receiver through
> secrecy
> and that such false power can be dissipated 'poof'
> just by opening up the curtains wide
> like in the wizard of oz
>
> no-one
> has the power to make me feel weak
> but me
>
>
> janet
>
>
> janet paterson
> 52 now / 41 dx / 37 onset
> snail-mail: PO Box 171  Almonte  Ontario  K0A 1A0
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>

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