I don't know how your are going to do it, but yes you must get your brother
to sign that Power of Attorney. I was able to manage with a power of
attorney for years, then finally had to take custody. It was not a court
battle, because the whole town knew me and had for years, even though I had
never lived there. The judge made it easy for me ( legally ). I don't know
where you live, but look into the state laws. It is very difficult for you I
know. It is just that you must. Nita

Chris Campbell wrote:

> Camilla, Sherry, Hilary, Nita, Teresa
>
> Thank you all for responding.  It is so helpful to get advise from those
> that know what both me and my brother are going through at this time in
> our lives.
>
> I have had mixed feeling about telling Sherman the truth about PD.  I
> don't know why, because I have my own chronic, untreatable, fatal cancer
> to live with, (fatal - live with, its being done). I want to know
> everything and belong to a list such as this one. I think I know more
> about my cancer than my doctor does.
>
> I will make a notebook for Sherman with copies of email from this list,
> printouts of articles about PD.  Do the same for him as I do for myself.
>
> My sister and I have talked about guardianship.  I called to find out
> the particulars, and have decided we, nor he, is ready for that step.
> (He is still where he belongs). I do have a Power of Attorney document
> for him to sign. I have been hesitant to ask him.  But I do believe it
> is time for me to start treating him like an adult.
>
> He is in a facility that is clean and well run.  All the patients that
> are up and around seems to be as comfortable and content as they can be
> given their illness. He could not find a better place, just different.
> My sister visits two to three times a week, she is nearby.  I live a
> distance away, but go out every week.  We have niece that also visits
> when she can.
>
> He is very passive. He listens to what we say, but because of his PD, he
> has very little facial expression anymore.  But, every time any of the
> employees or patients see Sherman, they get a smile on their face and
> say something nice to him or about him.  The "little old ladies" just
> get a twitter when they see him! They flirt with him and he just smiles
> his little smile.  Its strange, because Sherman can barely speak.  Also,
> He attends all of the functions that are presented.
>
> I imagine all of us have said over and over again that we don't want to
> be a burden for our children.  However, it seems that whenever one of us
> reach the stage where we need to be cared for, we have forgotten that
> pledge to ourselves.  Maybe it is because old age comes so quickly.
>
> Thanks again guys, I, like everyone else, is grateful for this list.
> Most of all I am thankful for the people on the list, willing to share
> their lives with others.
>
> Chris
> PWP-brother Sherman, 73/8